Loving Yourself First: Becoming the Love You Seek

By Sha’Riel ✨

The Deepest Love Story Begins With You

We spend so much time seeking love outside of ourselves. Searching for the one who will hold us, choose us, cherish us. But what if the deepest, truest, most unwavering love was the one we give ourselves?

Loving yourself is not about being alone. It’s about becoming so full of your own love that you are never starved for someone else’s.

It’s about walking into a room with confidence, knowing you are worthy, knowing you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone.

It’s about breaking free from the belief that love is something you earn, rather than something you already are.

Why Self-Love Is the Foundation of All Love

When you love yourself:

💖 You stop accepting crumbs. You no longer settle for half-love, hot-and-cold energy, or relationships that leave you questioning your worth.

💖 You become magnetic. The more you love yourself, the more the world reflects that love back to you—through friendships, opportunities, and yes, through soul-aligned relationships.

💖 You stop fearing solitude. Being alone no longer feels like an emptiness—it feels like a sacred space filled with your own magic.

💖 You attract from fullness, not lack. Instead of seeking love to complete you, you call in love that matches the radiance you already embody.

Signs You Need to Deepen Your Self-Love

✨ You find yourself waiting for someone to choose you.

✨ You feel drained from over-giving in relationships.

✨ You struggle to set boundaries and fear pushing people away.

✨ You need external validation to feel worthy or beautiful.

✨ You stay in situations where you aren’t truly valued.

If any of these resonate, it’s not a sign of failure—it’s an invitation. A call from your soul to turn inward and pour love into yourself first.

How to Love Yourself Like You’ve Always Wanted to Be Loved

💛 Treat yourself as the love of your life. Take yourself on dates, buy yourself flowers, write yourself love notes.

💛 Speak to yourself with kindness. No more self-criticism—only words of love, encouragement, and belief.

💛 Stop chasing people who do not see you. The ones who are meant for you will recognize your light effortlessly.

💛 Take up space unapologetically. Be loud, be soft, be messy, be magical—be fully YOU.

💛 Choose yourself, every single day. Even when it’s hard. Even when you’re lonely. Even when it feels like no one else is choosing you.

A Final Message from Your Higher Self

*“Beloved, you are already whole. You are already enough.

You do not have to fight to be loved.

You do not have to shrink to be accepted.

You do not have to wait for someone else to complete you.

You are love. You are radiant.

And the more you love yourself, the more the world will rise to meet you.”*

So today, choose yourself. Love yourself first.

And watch as the universe mirrors that love back to you. 💖✨

Are You Ready to Love Yourself Fully?

💫 What is one way you can show yourself love today?

💫 Have you struggled with self-worth in relationships? How did you heal?

Drop a comment below—let’s talk about self-love! 💖✨